About the Episode
Hey Outlaws, today on Entrepreneurial Outlaws we are going to be exploring the power of self-inquiry. Self-inquiry is a tool that I have been using in my business for a while, probably a couple of years. I didn’t wake up one day and think, “hey, I’m going to start using self-inquiry,” no, that was not how it happened. It was more of a process — self-inquiry for me has been a process of time. It’s been a practice. It is something that has become part of my journaling practice, part of my self-care rituals and routines.
But what I’ve discovered is when we approach self-inquiry with the focus on business, our own online businesses, what can happen is we are able to be better leaders. We’re able to be more engaged leaders or engaged content creators.
We’re able to foster business decisions. I’m not going to say better business decisions because I don’t necessarily believe in good and bad, but we’re able to make faster business decisions. We’re able to show up differently. We’re able to consider and reframe heavy conversations, uncomfortable decisions, uncomfortable conversations differently. This is part of the power of self-inquiry.
So in today’s episode, we’re going to look at what self-inquiry is, how we can use it in our businesses, why it is so powerful, and how it helps us to reframe some of these situations I’ve mentioned. I’m also going to talk about what the opposite of self-inquiry is, and again, why we can use self-inquiry to tap into our intuition and to really make those business decisions from a place of value. Grab your journal, especially your Outlaw Journal if you have it, and join me on the newest episode of the show!
Topics discussed in episode #34
- What exactly self inquiry is and how it can help you be a better business owner
- Why we should challenge the status quo and put our heart into everything we create
- Why self inquiry is especially important during a launch season
- How self inquiry helped Melanie to see her body differently, especially in a fatphobic industry
- Why it’s important to focus on what we need rather than what we want
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Hey Outlaws, happy Thursday. Welcome to episode 34. Today we are going to be exploring the power of self-inquiry self-inquiry is a tool that I have been using in my business for a while. Probably a couple of years. I didn't know I was using it for like the first 18 months. It wasn't something I didn't wake up one day and be like, Hey, I'm going to start using self-inquiry. That was not how it happened. It was more of a process self-inquiry for me has been a process of time. It's been a practice. It is something that has become part of my journaling practice, part of my self-care rituals and routines. But what I've discovered is when we approach self-inquiry in the, with the focus on business, our own online businesses, what can happen is we are able to be better leaders. We're able to be more engaged leaders or engaged content creators.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
We're able to make foster business decisions. I'm not going to say better business decisions because I don't necessarily believe in is good and bad, but we're able to make faster business decisions. We're able to show up differently. We're able to consider and reframe heavy conversations, uncomfortable decisions, uncomfortable conversations differently. And this is part of the power of self-inquiry. So in today's episode, we're going to look at what self-inquiry is, how we can use it in our businesses. Why is so powerful and how it helps us to reframe some of these situations I've mentioned. I'm also going to talk about what the opposite of self-inquiry is. And again, why we can use self-inquiry to tap into our intuition and to really make those business decisions from a place of value. But before we jump into today's episode, I have a couple of things that I wanted to mention.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
The first thing is because we're talking about self-inquiry and self-inquiry is a part of my journaling practice. My daily John lean practice inside of the outlet journal, which is a journal that I recently published for entrepreneurs. So it's a guided journal for entrepreneurs. The outlet journal was built, created born from the practice of self-inquiry because I've shared before here on the podcast and on social media, that journaling was something I was very resistant to sitting down with an empty journal. And just generally my thoughts, it was often a really hard, really hard for me to decide what I should talk about, what I should, what I should say. What did I need to think about? Because my brain is often very full. Anyway, especially as a visionary, I have so many ideas and not all of them. I take anywhere. Some of them are fleeting, but it's very difficult for me to then sit down with a blank notebook and start writing.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
And so over time I discovered John link prompts and that was a huge help, but I also found that I needed something more than a journaling prompt about gratitude, because for me, my journaling needed to have some kind of purpose. And it's not to say that a gratitude list is not purposeful, but for me it wasn't my type of journaling. It wasn't my journaling style. And so I started to journal more around my business and I created more journaling prompts for myself around the type of business owner I wanted to be. I create a journaling prompts around anti-marketing and really leaning into how we can do business differently and over in our own times. And from that, well, I created the outlet journal and the outlet channel is available on Amazon. You can actually go to my website, Melanie nights.com forward slash outlook journal. And from that, you can navigate over to Amazon to buy the journal.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
But on the page, on my website, we have all of the details about the journal. You can flip through the first 30 pages, so you can get an idea of what it looks like. But when I created this, it was designed and is designed for entrepreneurs who are tired of the status quo. If you're an entrepreneur who either already has a journaling practice, or maybe you've been resistant to journaling, this is either an, a great accompaniment to your already your ritual that you already have, or it's a great way of starting a journaling practice. Like I said, that has a defined purpose. There are still times even off to journaling consistently. For two years, I get really resistant. I go through periods of time where maybe I have a lot going on in my head. I've got to really try and process decisions and think about different things.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
I'm leaning in myself inquiry, but I don't have much left for journaling it's during those times that I lean on generally prompts and my outlet journal. Now the outlet journal is separated into six sections. And I've talked about this on the podcast before. If you go back to the episode where we talk about the anatomy of an entrepreneurial outlook, those six characteristics, how I separated each area of the outlawed journal within there, we have journaling prompts that you have daily journaling prompts for 12 weeks, and you're able to go through and really define what business means to you. So in this episode, as we talk about self-inquiry, you may hear some rustling. I apologize, but I'm going to be sharing with you. Some of the pieces within the owl journal, I'm going to be sharing with you some of the ideas, some of the concepts that we have inside of the journal, so that you can get an idea as to what the outlet journal can really do for you and your business. So remember, this is a business journal is designed for entrepreneurs, but it is such a powerful,
Speaker 1 (06:33):
But it is such a powerful tool to help you on yourself. Inquiry Johnny, especially as I said earlier, if you are someone who tends to go straight to, how could you let this happen? Why would you let this mistake happen? Right? If you're a perfectionist or a recovering perfectionist or someone who has very high standards for themselves and possibly higher standards. And my hand is raised high self-inquiry can really help you to reframe these situations and lean in to your inner outlook and, and allow yourself to kind of stretch those out little wings and start to master that a little Johnny. So, as I said, you can go over to my website, Melanie nights.com forward slash aloe journal to grab a copy of your journal. But we're going to dig into today's episode. We're going to talk about self-inquiry and we're going to talk about what self-inquiry is, how we can use that and leverage it in our businesses.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
And one of the ways I've been leveraging it just recently is my outlook moment of the week. We've talked about outlaw moments of the week here on the show before these are those moments. When you, maybe you feel like you're being pulled to do something, your heart is telling you, your soul is telling you the need to do something, say no to something, say yes to something, whatever it might be. And then there's that little noise that'll voice in your head that says, but what will so-and-so think, or what will my coach think? Or what will Instagram think? I've realized just recently how much I used to think that how much my ego would get in the way. And I would be like, Instagram, think of me and you do it anyway, right? That's your owl or moment you do it. Anyway, it goes against the status quo.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
It goes against the grain. It challenges the norm. That is your album moment. And my outdoor moment has been a long time coming. I've said this before here on the show that I don't enjoy launching. And I'm still trying to find my flow with launches, but I was chatting with a friend just recently on focus. So we were having this kind of ongoing conversation because there's a five or six hour time difference between the two of us. And so we were kind of having this ongoing conversation over a few days. And I love this because what tends to happen is as I'm talking and we're talking back and forth about business and the state of business and what is broken, and some of the things, strategies and tactics that we've both been coached on, and that we still get hung up on. I'll have these like light bulb moments, these like mic drop moments of, Oh, that would be a great piece of content.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
And Oh, how have I not thought about this before? And I love those moments and that kept happening for both of us during this time. But what happened during these conversations was I identified something that I already knew, but I was too scared to actually admit it or do it. And that is the, in the last year, when I have created or delivered something that I wanted. So for example, this podcast, entrepreneurial Outlaws was not something that people were asking me for. No one was sending me a message saying, Oh my God, Melanie, please create entrepreneurial outlaws. I need this book crossed, obviously that wasn't happening because it didn't exist. No one knew about it. No one, no one else was doing anything like this. And no one else knew that this was a thing until I created it the same with the outlook journal, nobody was messaging me saying, Melanie, I need an outlook journal. I created it. And I was so happy that people bought it. But the reason this podcost continues to grow, the reason the outlet journal had a as far as I'm concerned, a great pre-sell right. I sold 12, 12 channels in the pre-sale. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
And I'll continue to sell more, but the reason I'm so happy with us outcomes and the reason that they felt so good is because I challenged the status core. I challenged the norm of online business. You see, we were always told that we should create what people are asking for. Right. We're told to create what people are asking for. And I don't necessarily think that's wrong, but, but I think it's wrong when we're creating something that our heart isn't in, right? We've all had that thing that maybe we've created, or a piece of content that we, I don't know, piece of content. We created something, something in our business, we put it out into the wild. We probably put way too much time and effort and energy into it. And then it doesn't get the result we wanted. And we're like, okay, I don't really care.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
And the reason we don't care is not because we don't care. It's because heart wasn't in it. In the first place I lost five and a half over the last five and a half years in my business, I have created so many different things in the beginning. I created way too many things with way too many different names. It was very confusing and complicated. And over time I have learned to refine that I've learned that it's not really my style to create tons and tons of stuff I love creating, but I have to kind of reign that in because otherwise it gets of, but what I haven't, I hadn't realized until well recently is that when I created things, the port cost the journal. When I create a community like out collect outlook, collective from a place of passion, from what I need in my business and from my business, it's a game changer.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Now. I don't know whether it's the same for everybody. I'm going to be really honest. I don't know if that's the same for everyone else. This is not something that I've tried and tested. But when I spoken to other entrepreneurs who have at least a similar approach to business, as I do, it's a resounding yeah, it's a resounding yes. When I create something, because I want to create it, there is more excitement and more engagement and more, more involvement. Yeah. In the process, there's more support for whatever it is that you're creating. And it seems kind of obvious, right? Because yeah, when we are excited about the thing we're creating, we show up differently. Our energy is different. We talk about it in this passionate way. I mean, if you follow me on Instagram, there was weeks where the only thing I talked about was the outlet channel for days on stories and the moment of which I started to get fed up with hearing myself, talk about it and even had that moment of, Oh my gosh, is everyone fed up hearing about this?
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Guess what happened? People start signing up for the waitlist. I mean, that's possibly one of the only one of the few tactics. It's not even a tactic. It's just a theory, a business theory that you have to talk about things over and over again. Right. But if you're someone like me, who is a people, pleaser, recovering people, pleaser and worries what people might think that's really hard to do. Right. That's really hard to do, to keep talking about something over and over and over again. But I'm trying to get better at it because I'm like who the hell is going to talk about it if I don't. Right. And I really believe in this. So I will keep talking about the journal. I will keep talking about the collective and he will keep talking about this podcast because his is so important. So my outlook moment was realizing that when I create things that I want to create, it changes the game for me.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
I stop overthinking. And even when I do feel a little bit like, is this the right decision, I'm able to get through it so much quicker. And I use my self inquiry practice as well, which is great, but I'm able to get through it so much quicker. I'm able to kind of shut down and reframe that feeling of thought into, no, this is what I'm doing. This is what I'm supposed to be doing. And so I would love to know what your out low moments of the week, huh? Join me on, on Instagram and tell me what your outlook moment of the week was, or is, or just an Allo moment that you can think of a big decision that you've made recently. The challenge is to say, to squirrel of online business challenges, the States is quite generally, I would love to know more, but today we're talking about self-inquiry. So we're going to get into today's episode in just a moment, grab a drink, grab your ear buds, grab your channel. And let's T let's talk about self-inquiry the power of self-inquiry and episode 34.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Okay. Outlaws. So let's talk about what self-inquiry is. Okay. Self-inquiry is curiosity. Self-Inquiry is curiosity is being curious about decisions. You make thoughts. You might have curious about situations that you're in. It's the very act of being curious of sitting down and saying, I wonder why I do that. I wonder why I think that, I wonder why when I open up Instagram, I feel suddenly like everything I do is crap. I wonder why when I see that person's Instagram feed, I doubt myself. I wonder why I find pricing so hard. Okay. So it's a curiosity. It's a question. Self-Inquiry is the act of being curious with ourselves about why we might do things, why we might behave in a certain way. If we talk about it specifically towards business, why you might feel certain things around certain aspects of business, why certain areas of social media or business, or even some people might be triggering for us?
Speaker 1 (17:47):
For me, one of the areas of my business, I really have to be curious about is launching. Like I've said before, launching is something that I find kind of hard. It's very draining on my energy and I still get far too hung up on adding too many bells and whistles. So I have to be very, very and tie strategy. I have to allow myself to create an objective and then be like, right, I'm just going to talk about this and talk about this and talk about this myself inquiry. I lean on it really hard during a launch because I have to. And the reason I lean on self-inquiry so much in those busiest seasons of business or seasons of business, where I might start to become more self-critical or I might become, become really overwhelmed or frustrated with myself. The reason I lean into self-inquiry is because it allows me to reframe those situations. So let me give you an example. I'm going to give you a couple of examples. I'm going to give you one for business and then one that's related to body image.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Let's just assume we're on Instagram and maybe you've just finished up your launch. And you, as far as you were concerned, that launch went well, you weren't unhappy with it. It wasn't like this. It was, it was the perfect launch for you, whatever that would look like, right? It was a perfect launch for you. It felt good. It did exactly what you wanted to do, wanted it to do financially. It was a really great launch.
Speaker 2 (19:29):
Speaker 1 (19:29):
You head over to Instagram, for whatever reason, you open up your app. And when you go in, there is a post from a coach or a mentor, whomever, someone talking about that launch, they sold out the spots. They had a six-figure launch. They have a team. They've got all these, all these new students leads you clients. They've got the social proof and they have this like really curated feed. And all of a sudden everything you felt really happy about suddenly you're questioning suddenly. It's no longer a great launch. All of a sudden you're doubting yourself. I could have done more. I should have done more. It should have been better.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
Speaker 1 (20:21):
What can often happen in those situations? Is we just spiral? Right? Comparisonitis on social media is a thing. I feel like that's what it's built on us comparing ourselves to strangers on the internet.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
Speaker 1 (20:37):
We spiral, again, those thoughts can get out of control. And all of a sudden we're like knee deep in someone's Instagram forgetting why we're on Instagram, what we were doing. And now we feel really about it.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
That is self judgment,
Speaker 1 (21:00):
Right? That is us judging ourselves and comparing ourselves to someone else. Everything that we believed about ourselves suddenly was gone. And now it would be really critical and self judgment, self judgment.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Cool. The opposite,
Speaker 1 (21:18):
If this is self-inquiry. So the opposite of self judgment is self-inquiry
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Speaker 1 (21:26):
The act of being curious with ourselves. So what would that look like? So the first thing is it would be a practice of self-awareness, right? Sure. It would be great if we didn't even go to Instagram in the first place, but that may not always be practical. So the second step is us catching that moment. That moment, when we start to get critical towards ourselves catching ourselves, when we're going, Oh, well she did this and I can't do that. Right. Self judgment is very binary. Why can't I have that? She did this. Why haven't I, I must be rubbish. No one likes my work. Self-Inquiry right. The act of curiosity is I wonder what it takes to do that. I wonder what she had to do to have that kind of launch. I wonder what is involved. I wonder how I could do that, but differently. I wonder what that would look like for my business. Do I even want that? What am I willing to sacrifice to achieve that? Am I willing to sacrifice things to achieve that? Is that even my goal,
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Can you see the difference?
Speaker 1 (22:47):
There's such a vast difference between that judgemental binary response of I'm, everything, I'm going to bundle down because I don't, it doesn't look this way to the curious response of asking questions.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
And hopefully you can hear that
Speaker 1 (23:07):
By asking those questions. But through that, self-inquiry we instantly become more compassionate When now not focused on either or we're now focused on, well, this is my business and that's their business. Two things can exist. Doesn't mean I'm wrong or I'm or any of that stuff.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
One of the other examples I wanted to share with you, cause I thought about this recently, when I was chatting with my coach is how self-inquiry has helped me to my body image differently. We talked about body image before on the show here, I have talked a lot about my own body image and said, you know, I am very aware of my size and I consider myself to be a fat person, whether or not that makes people uncomfortable. But one of the things that I found really hard is as an entrepreneur, not seeing many other people that look like me now, I started off in the health and fitness industry as well. So I was, it was even fewer people who looked like me and you might wonder why does that matter? Maybe it doesn't, it doesn't matter that people don't look like me, but it's the case of looking around and being very aware of the fact that maybe you're the only found entrepreneur that you know of.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
Right. And because of the fat phobic language and stereotypes used, even in entrepreneurship, that it becomes kind of overwhelming. You're like, do people really think that about me? Do people judge me in that way? And so what would often happen? What did happen when I started to really lean into, okay, this is my buddy and I am not willing to spend the rest of my life fighting with myself. I'm not willing to be miserable because at the end of the day, I have so much work to do. And I don't mean that in busy whack. I mean, like I have to do. I have great ideas and I have things to put out into that world. And I have have incredible things to deliver and share. And I have skills I want people to be aware of. And I was like, if I spend more time just obsessing over my body, I'm not going to have to do that.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
Cause I'm going to be too obsessed with how I look or how am I, how big my buddy is or how small by buddy is, or trying to make my body smaller and take up less space. And so we really focused on health, right? Instead of focusing, and it was a, it's still a Johnny, this is probably a whole other episode. It's still a journey, right? Unpacking diet culture is still an ongoing practice to me. But what I wanted to do, I was introduced to. So I was introduced to this idea a few years ago, I wanted to find accounts. People who live in bigger bodies, right. Then not people who have weaponized the body positivity movement and actually straight sized, but they are, they are fat people and they're talking about their bodies in that way. And they were doing work to really promote size inclusivity and fat inclusivity. And so I started to follow more and more Instagram accounts of women in particular. They're awesome. Men as well, but women in particular who have bigger bodies. And I don't want to say they have buddies that look like mine. They have buddies that are similar to mine.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
And one of the things that started to happen was I would look at their bodies. Maybe they were in a swimsuit or underwear, or they were in a dress like a tight fitting dress, or I dunno, crop tops or something. And I would look at them and be like, they look really great. I don't look like that. They can wear that. I can't buy that. Why can't I find clothes like that? I'm never going to find clothes like that. And I would have this kind of back and forth narrative about my buddy. What started to shift was when I started to look at their buddies. And instead of saying, they look, they look great. I look crap. I'm not going to look like that.
Speaker 1 (27:58):
I shifted my approach. I reframed the way I looked at these women and these people and would say to myself, they look great. I looked great too. Right? They look great in that swimsuit and wonder where they got that from. I wonder if they have that company has a swimsuit that would look at that grill on me. Right? So again, rather than comparing myself and my buddy to them, rather than deciding that they look great, I don't look great. Well, they look great and I can't look great. I reframed it with more curiosity and understanding that just because someone else looks like that. And I don't see that in myself doesn't mean that's not what someone else sees in me. And I think that's really relevant, relevant to our businesses as well. Like we can get so hung up on our own businesses and then someone else can see a million things that we can't see about our own business or our own success of what we do.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
Speaker 1 (29:13):
It would be so amazing if we all could see in ourselves, what other people see, right? But this is the power of self-inquiry. This is the power of curiosity. Being able to reframe situations, being able to reframe conversations, right? You've all had that. We've all had those conversations or those scenarios where we start catastrophize and I'll head, right? Maybe it's with a client, maybe we've something's happened. There's a mistake or something has happened. And we start to catastrophize it. We're like, they're going to fire us. This is the end of my business. Everything's going to fall apart. Oh my God, how did I let this happen? We can be really, really hard on ourselves. And that will probably still be your default. I know it's still my default, but it's that self-awareness of catching yourself and saying, okay, this happened, how am I going to make sure this doesn't happen again? What am I need to do differently? What if this is an opportunity for me? What kind of opportunities could this bring?
Speaker 2 (30:25):
What can I do differently inside the outlet channel?
Speaker 1 (30:33):
There is a whole section, section two on needs, right? It's all about helping business owners identify what they need from their business. And maybe you're wondering why that's important. The reason it's important is because for the most, for most of us, we focus on what we want. We're told to focus on what we want, Right? We focus on what we want. If you are in, if you have a life where you are looking off to others, maybe you have dependence or you care for people in any way. You're often thinking about other people's needs. Maybe you're even thinking about your client's needs. What am I clients need from me this week when my customers need? But how often do you check in with your own needs? How often do you get curious about what you need from your business? And the reason this is so important is because knowing what you need from your business challenges, the status quo, knowing what you need from your business challenges, bro marketing.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Speaker 1 (31:51):
Because if you know what you need, right. If you know what you need from your business, then you'll. Lens is going to be super clear because you're not going to blindly invest in someone else's dream. You're not going to invest in something that's complete just because someone's saying, well, no, you want this because you're able to go, no, no, I need this, right? So again, let me give you an example. I might sit there and say, I really want to have a 50,000 pound a year business. If 50,000, 50,000 pound year in business, I'm not turning that down, right? I'm not turning that down. But if I sit down and ask myself, what do I need from my business right now, in this season? Right? Because Hey, we're allowed to change our mind and things are allowed to evolve. So what do I need from my business right now in this season, I need more joy. I need more creativity. I need more space and expansion. I needed venture, but I also need consistency. I need self-care. I need community and connection. These are the things that I need for my business. They have nothing to do with money. They're about how I want to feel.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
And I really encourage you to use this as a journaling prompt. What do I need for my business in this season? And there's a whole series of journaling prompts, very similar to this one to help you really tap into what you need from your business inside of the outlet channel. It's why I create a whole section because it's so critical that we understand as business owners,
Speaker 2 (33:57):
What we need,
Speaker 1 (33:59):
Because it is the antidote to bro marketing the antidote to the status quo, right? Challenges, the status quo. It helps us dismantle bro marketing in online business
Speaker 2 (34:14):
Speaker 1 (34:18):
A majority of bro marketing tactics built on this idea, this weaponized idea of abundance, dreaming, big reaching for the stars. And look, I want everybody to dream big. I want everyone to dream a little bigger, right? It's not about that.
Speaker 2 (34:45):
Speaker 1 (34:47):
What is often missing from these weaponized marketing tactics, these weaponized sales pages and coaching programs is that they're not talking about the practicality of actually achieving these things. There are some practicalities things like you do need some people, you may not need 10,000 people and maybe you don't need social media and an email list and a podcast and a YouTube channel and all those things. But you need some people and you need to have actually built some relationships with those people. And you need to actually know what you're doing as in what is it that you're offering. You need to be able to talk about those things.
Speaker 2 (35:31):
Speaker 1 (35:31):
This glorification of having this kind of no bad days, lifestyle from a business is not always practical. And again, when we know what we need from our business, we're able to chase that goal. That dream, the thing that we actually need, right? How much money do I need from my business? And I know it doesn't feel as sexy, right? It doesn't feel as sexy. It's almost like I'm saying to you, we're going to be mediocre together. But look as Outlaws, we're far from mediocre, that is not the point, right? That is not the point. And being an outlook doesn't mean you have to do this on your own, right? It doesn't mean you're on your own and you has to be all on you. And it's all your fault. Being an outlaw just means finding your people right? In every area of your professional, professional, and personal life. And it's so critical that we understand what we need, right? What do we need from relationships? What do we need from a business?
Speaker 1 (36:48):
What do we need to financially? What do we need from this launch? Self-Inquiry is an incredibly powerful tool. And yeah, it can look like journaling, right? It can look like generally, as I said, the outlet general is rooted in self-inquiry. That is the purpose, but self-inquiry can also look like meditation. Self-Inquiry can also look like dreaming. All right. When was the last time you just lay down for five minutes and did nothing and just dreamed, right? What if, what if I shared with you my outlook moment of the week, which was to start doing more of the things that I want, creating more of the things that I know are important, right? If that's what you want to be doing, like what if, what if you had a business allowed you to do things that you really, really love or really passionate about?
Speaker 1 (38:03):
And it's not to say that you're not doing that, but if there are areas of your business where you're unhappy, then this is definitely a place to some, self-inquiry definitely a place for you to tap into that compassionate reframe and look at why. And what if right? What do I need from this? And why isn't it working? What can I do differently? What's the opportunity here? And self-inquiry is just one tool, right? It's not a band-aid, it's a practice, like most things, but the power that it can bring to us is phenomenal in the last year self-inquiry has helped me to make business decisions. It's helps me to decide how I would handle leadership decisions, hiring team members letting go of clients, how to handle transitions with clients, how to handle launches that did not go to plan and to handle how to handle those moments. When life is feeling really heavy and hard, right? And practicing duality and being able to navigate those situations. So I can still run my business.
Speaker 1 (39:30):
I think self-inquiry is one of the, just the most soul driven tools that we can use. And I think it's really underutilized. So I encourage you next time that you feel that Pang of comparison in a critic, but negative, self-talk tapping back into self-inquiry being curious, right? Because it helps you to shine up your lens because knowing what you need in all these areas helps you make better decisions, helps you make faster decisions, helps you make decisions that are value driven and driven by your beliefs. Not by a sales page or some FOMO or scarcity. It is the antidote to bro marketing and the state to score
Speaker 2 (40:29):
Speaker 1 (40:29):
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Speaker 1 (41:44):
So that is it for episode 34, next week, we're going to be talking about the pricing controversy. And if you're like, hold up, what's happened. Nothing, nothing new, nothing new has happened with the poison controversy. It's all the same, right? It's all the same ship. And in fact, we're going to be talking about how to use self-inquiry to help us price our work, because this is consistently consistently a struggle for entrepreneurs, how to price our own work, but it's a lot deeper than just pricing, right? So we're going to get into that next week in episode 35. So that is it for me today. Thank you so much for tuning in. Thank you so much for being here. Instead, if you want more information on the outlook Jato and to audio and copy, head over to Melanie nights.com forward slash outlawed journal, you can get all of the information that you can see. Some pages reviews. You can look inside the channel and then you can go straight to Amazon from that and all your copy. So I will see you next week. Have a great week. Get curious until next time Outlaws.